Dear Auntie , I am an adolescent and I want to know if it is right for teenagers to fall in love and enter into relationships without having sex.
Dear Worried Girl, Loving and being loved by others is a natural thing and the feeling is good.
When people feel close to one another, they feel happy, important, understood and secure, but it is important to know that there are so many kinds of love and each has its own implications and unique emotional state.
The kind of love we feel for our parents is different from the love we have for our siblings or best friends.
The love you are talking about is the romantic kind of relationship and that one is very different. This kind of love is delicate and needs to be nurtured by the people involved in order to make it last.
So, Worried Girl, you have to ask yourself whether or not, at your age, you have the time and energy to nurture a romantic relationship to make it last. Remember that you have your schooling to consider.
This is not the time to fall in love because, at your age, you can’t deal with the demands of being in a relationship. Besides, you are too young and your interests will keep changing as you grow into an adult.
You may wake up one day to realise that what you thought was love for the other person was really not love. But by then you would have wasted your time and energy for nothing.
Also, when you are in a relationship, you do a lot of things to make the other person happy, including giving in to sex when you are not ready. This can lead to teenage pregnancy, which I know you are not ready for because you are young and have your whole life ahead of you.
I don’t think you are ready for a boy/girl relationship. Enjoy your time in school, with family and friends and don’t burden yourself with a boy/girl relationship because there will be time enough for this when you are older.
For now, study hard to achieve your aim.
All the best.